🛡️upstander😂do not join in💌kind message🧑a grown-up
Do not join in. Be kind. Tell.
The big ideaWhen someone is treated unkindly online, do not join in. Be kind, and tell a grown-up.
How it works
An upstander is someone who sees unkindness and helps, in a safe way.
An upstander does not need to be loud, because a quiet message counts, and does not have to fix it alone.
Do not join in, not even with a laughing face or a like. Each laugh tells them more people are laughing.
Be kind privately, and tell a grown-up.
What Bea did.Join in, or stand up?
Example 1: A game chat
A player is called a mean name.
Do not laugh.
Send a kind private message and tell a grown-up.
Example 2: A funny picture of a classmate
Do not like it or pass it on.
Tell a grown-up.
Say something kind to your classmate.
Example 3: A friend left out
A friend is left out of a group chat on purpose.
Do not join in.
Tell a grown-up and ask how to include them.
Example 4: Words only
If it is only words, save a picture of the chat.
Show it to a grown-up, who can talk to the teacher or whoever runs the chat.
Words to know
upstander
Someone who sees unkindness and helps in a safe way.
join in
To add your own laugh, like or joke.
private message
A message just to one person.
true and kind
What you say to someone who had a hard day.
Watch out
Even a tiny picture adds to the pile.
Arguing in front of everyone can make it louder.
If it feels too much, tell a grown-up first. Staying quiet before does not make you unkind.
You are never in trouble for telling.
Try it
Is tapping a laughing face joining in?
What can you send someone who is being laughed at?
Who do you tell?
Does staying quiet once make you unkind?
Answers: 1. Yes · 2. A true, kind private message · 3. A grown-up · 4. No
Try at homeWith a grown-up, practise writing a kind and true message to a friend who had a hard day. Plan who to tell if you see someone treated unkindly online.
For grown-upsPractice writing a kind and true message together, and plan who to tell if your child sees someone treated unkindly online.
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