The big ideaBefore giving, ask with a grown-up: what does it do, and can we check it?
How it works
Before giving, ask three questions with a grown-up.
One: does it say plainly what it does with the coins? Two: can you check it? Three: does it ask for a secret, or a hurry?
A real group does not mind waiting and never hides from your grown-ups.
Saying not today is always okay, and it costs nothing.
What to do before giving.
🪧no details🤫a secret⏳a hurry
Signs to slow down and ask more.
Example 1: The first stall
Its sign says plainly: we mend old bikes for neighbors.
Its keeper has a name card, and a record book lies open nearby.
Nobody hurries you, so these are good signs.
Example 2: The second stall
Its sign says nothing about what the coins would do.
A voice says to keep it secret from your grown-ups, and it says to hurry.
Those are three signs to slow down, so the answer is not today.
Example 3: Checking with a grown-up
A grown-up can look up who runs it.
A grown-up can read its record, or ask neighbors who know its work.
If it can be checked, that is a good sign.
Example 4: Ana's choice
Grandpa read the record book with Ana.
Then she chose to give a coin, with him beside her.
It was her choice, and a checked one.
Words to know
record
A written account of what a group does.
secret
Something you are asked to hide from your grown-ups.
hurry
Being told to decide right now.
Watch out
A bright sign or a pretty stall does not tell you it is real.
A loud stall is not a real one. Asking for a secret or a hurry means ask more.
A group that gets upset when a grown-up asks questions means ask more.
Never give because you feel rushed. Not today is always okay.
Try it
A stall says: keep it secret from your grown-ups. Is that a good sign, or a sign to ask more?
What is Grandpa's second question?
A stall's sign says plainly what it does, and it has a name and a record. Good sign, or ask more?
Answers: 1. A sign to ask more · 2. Can you check it? · 3. A good sign
Try at homeWith a grown-up, think of a group that asks for coins or help. Ask the three questions: does it say what it does, can we check it, does it ask for secrecy or hurry?
For grown-upsNo real group or cause is named. Practice the three questions together on a real appeal, and tell your child you will always be glad to be asked. Appeals that come online are covered in the Digital Life pack.
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